Midlife Crisis – Or Limiting Beliefs?

A MIDLIFE CRISIS is the sight of a middle-aged man who thinks he can be Tom
Cruise buying a sports car/fast motorcycle, dating a younger woman, and clubbing. The term has become a socially acceptable label for this behaviour,
which is more pitying than anything else.
In reality, a midlife crisis is a dip in happiness – you start to feel inadequate and resentful. You have a job and a paycheque. A challenge exists between being satisfied with your life and wanting to do something more meaningful.
We were all brought up with our cultural norms and behavioural tendencies. We were all taught the expected communication techniques and the standards of acceptable behaviour. Modern education aims to produce so-called ordinary people who can contribute to society.
The typical person’s life cycle is to go to school and university and borrow money to pay for their education. Afterwards, you become an employee and work up the corporate ladder.
You meet someone and get married, and you are now an excellent employee, person, wife or husband, and mother or father. Meanwhile, your true self becomes lost because the system sets your goals for you and convinces you that they are your goals.
Your marriage is a social construct with culturally defined rules, expectations, and boundaries. Governments support this social conditioning by instructing people to perform in ways that society approves of to keep control.
You pay your taxes and insurance and can’t remember your childhood ambitions or how you wanted to spend your life. You’re wondering where your life has gone because you’ve spent the majority of it doing monotonous and repetitive things that you didn’t want to undertake in the first place.
For some, a midlife crisis is a realisation that something is lacking– your spark, edge, or vitality. You had achieved what society considered the ultimate goal: family, money, a car, a home, and a job. Yet, you’re still feeling hollow. They seemed genuine initially, but once you got them, they felt pointless. You had succeeded while also failing yourself with artificial ambitions.
You are bored. What to do now? Where to go? It is the reason why many successful people have a midlife crisis. They reached a goal that was not theirs. They were conditioned by the culture, seduced by the marketers and mind-washed by the society.
I have a whole life, and I tell people why finding their intrinsic goals is so important. If you don’t, you will keep fighting meaninglessly for a meaningless result like buying a sportscar, leaving your wife and clubbing.
Stop limiting beliefs. I read, “It takes just as much work to dream a big dream as it does to dream a little dream.” You have nothing to lose in dreaming of achieving a little dream. Today, decide that you will have a mix of purpose and pleasure and live your experiences, never letting your dreams go unfulfilled.
Being authentic is a sign of spiritual awakening, with no meditation or drugs required. It gives you freedom, but it needs to be practised every day.