IT’S NATURAL TO worry about the prospect of another ‘winter crisis’ but if you are already starting to feel a sense of dread about the winter months, here are some strategies to help.
Many people are drawing on the experience of the tough winter of 2020/21 as they face the next, and the headlines just this week are quite daunting; with Covid cases rising and the prospect of a higher rate of flu, experts are warning that more action is needed.
Worrying about being worried is a thing
We often tell ourselves there’s no point worrying about things that haven’t happened yet. That’s sort of true, of course – but it’s also true that humans do experience worry, and just denying it probably isn’t helpful.
Our brains are wired to anticipate threat, and if you’ve been through a period where things were mentally difficult, it’s very natural to worry about it happening again (as anyone with experience of panic attacks will know).
“We call it ‘anticipatory anxiety’,” explains Dr Meg Arroll, a chartered psychologist. “Without a doubt, our cognitions, our thoughts, maintain our sense of anxiety and our stress response.”
We know how hard it is now
As senior therapist Sally Baker points out, we also know now that living through a pandemic really isn’t easy. “When it all kicked off, it was called ‘unprecedented’ because we’d never had this experience before. That was a whole different mindset and there was a lot of virtue signalling – a lot of saying, ‘Oh, well now I’ve got all this extra time, I’m going to be doing yoga, doing my storyboarding and my journaling’ and all that rubbish. And then the grind drilled down, and it was just awful.
“So now we understand what we’re in for, and we are carrying with us the trauma of the previous [winter].”
“We kind of went into a low mood last time,” she adds, “but now we’re already there, and lots of people never got out of the last one because it was so debilitating and so impactful on their lives.”
The power of keeping it real
Wondering how on earth this is helpful? Here’s the thing – we are not designed to be endless beacons of positivity. And trying too hard to be that, and pushing that onto others, rather than just being a compassionate listener, is often just a short-term ‘bandage’ and may prevent us from really moving through these emotional challenges.
“We have to treat ourselves like ninjas in training!” says Baker. “And it’s not about being ultra-positive because that’s where we dip into toxic positivity, and toxic positivity doesn’t serve us because it denies our authentic feelings. It’s about having a realistic appraisal of the situation, and as a ninja in training, we need to do all the things we can do to help us.”
What things help you cope?
Arroll uses something psychologists call an ‘insight model’, “where we focus on what resources we have,” she explains. “So, asking patients to reflect and look back at what helped you last time. We’ve had a few lockdowns now and we have experience of coping. Helping people bring to mind their experience of coping is incredibly important.”
“And those are things like creating opportunities for dopamine and serotonin releases – the good hormones for our brains,” says Baker. “Find a way every day to support your mental health, with a download of feelgood stuff.”
Be conscious of what you’re consuming
The basics – like wholesome, nutritious food, getting plenty of quality sleep and avoiding too much alcohol (which dents our REM sleep, notes Baker, which is when our brains “process your daytime anxiety”) – really can’t be overlooked. These things support us from the inside out and also help with hormone and energy regulation and just providing a more solid foundation for ourselves when our emotions feel frayed.
But what we consume during times of heightened stress and anxiety extends to our TV and phone habits too. “Try to break the doom-scrolling habit – it’s so addictive,” says Arroll. Yes, we need a level of information about what’s going on, but is it really doing us any good if we’re checking headlines and Twitter all day long?
Arroll says “Although we used to watch the news once a day, now its constant, so while technology has evolved, our stress responses haven’t. Constant doom-scrolling often equals a ton of excess stress.
And keep up social connections, “which is important to do at this time of year anyway,” says Arroll. “We’re very social in summer but do tend to let that drop in winter.” Baker agrees: “Find ways to meet people outside, find ways to connect with friends. Bring back pen-pals, start writing, sending cards to each other, things that can give you a boost.”
